Understanding Your Wife’s Deepest Needs

Understanding his wife’s deepest needs is the responsibility of every husband. God expects a man to honor his wife otherwise it will interfere with his relationship with God. 1 Peter 3:7 (ISV) puts it this way, “In a similar way, you husbands must live with your wives in an understanding manner, as with a most delicate vessel. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers."

It is a husband's job to meet his wife's needs. However, (and this is where it gets confusing) her needs are not the same as his needs! Consequently, if a husband tries to meet his wife's needs by duplicating his own needs, he will fail. A husband meets his wife's needs by first discovering what her needs are! Thankfully, there is a great book that helps him do that.

The book "His Needs/Her Needs" is the result of thousands of couples studied over a period of 25 years. The author discovered that most women would site the following five needs as priority in her life.

1. MY WIFE NEEDS ME TO BE AFFECTIONATE. (Colossians 3:19; Ephesians 5:28-30)
2. MY WIFE NEEDS ME TO TALK TO HER. (Proverbs 13:17; Phillipians 2:1-2; Philippians 2:4)
3. MY WIFE NEEDS ME TO BE COMPLETELY TRUSTWORTHY. (Proverbs 26:23; Proverbs 12:22)
4. MY WIFE NEEDS ME TO BE FINANCIALLY SUPPORTIVE. (1 Timothy 5:8; Proverbs 12:9; Proverbs 21:20)
5. MY WIFE NEEDS ME TO BE COMMITTED TO THE FAMILY. (Proverbs 5:15; Ephesians 6:4;
Ecclesiastes 10:18; Ephesians 5:25)

If a husband learns to meet these needs he will be irresistible to the lady in his life.